We all come from all different backgrounds, and we were all taught differently; depending on how you were brought up, you could have been taught being optimistic and happy is the best and easiest to get the most out of life. With that said, you could’ve also been taught the complete opposite; you could’ve been taught that chasing your dreams, thinking outside the box, and being too happy and positive will crush you more long-term.
You could have been taught that thinking crazy it’s too crazy; you could’ve been told running a business is not realistic. You could’ve been taught that you would end up being happier if you were just settled and stopped pushing so hard towards those crazy unrealistic, and ridiculous goals.
Regardless of which side you are on and what you have been taught about negativity, happiness, chasing your dreams, how you should choose to think and how you should use to act to get the most out of your life, I am here to tell you that I believe neither of those directions is always correct, I think that from time to time in certain circumstances negativity, sadness and stress could be more beneficial than positivity, The opposite can also be said that being too negative, and too pessimistic can also damage you.
If you believe positivity and happiness, and optimism are all you need throughout your life, that’s not quite the reality and not the whole truth; if you think that being negative, pessimistic, and angry is the best way to live your life, that is also incorrect from My personal experience.
I have always been a somewhat negative person and overly pessimistic, and that gets in the way from time to time; However, I have been working on being more positive, taking more risks, and living life to the fullest. I do believe that going through life thinking that everything is Great no matter what happens and that you will never be brought down, and then every tragic thing is somehow a lesson to the incredible up-and-coming thing in your life is absurd.
One of the downsides to being too optimistic all the time, Is that it makes it a lot harder to grieve with someone, listen to someone, and support someone when all you’re thinking is all the great things that are going to come out of something for the person that is suffering's, eventually good things do tend to come out a lot of stuff. Still, it’s OK for people to not necessarily see it that way or seek the good stuff out of the tragedy or situation for some time. in my personal opinion, I will not speak for anyone else, but I would say another problem with being too positive all the time is that those are the people that tend to hide the most emotion and most pain, I would argue.
The problem with being too negative, is that You can make an attack yourself a lot, because you have been trained that you are thinking unrealistically, or that your dreams are ridiculous, or that this person is always going to be better than you,you might even think you don’t deserve anything but bad luck, tragedy or struggle, but deep down you know you want to break out of that cycle and you don’t know how, I’m here to tell you that if you are in that position, we are in this together, and I am learning day by day to find the best balance possible that I can. Negativity in just the right moments, is much better than positivity in the wrong moment.
Generally it is better to be positive but it is not a good idea to turn your whole life into a happy fest because that’s not the reality of life, it is also not a good idea to turn your life into a cry festor into nonstop negativities or pessimism, you will eventually end up destroying your mind or any chance of getting confidence. Learning to find a balance of positivity and negativity is always going to be a process, we are not always going to be able to be as positive as we should, and there are going to be times we’re not going to be as negative in situation as we should be. Balance, that is key, if you find the key one day, please come find me. Is nothing wrong with process, learning, growing and development.