I have never been the best at being resilient with situations and taking things as they happen; if a problem or something that I was not planning for or expecting throws me off, I get freaked out easily.
It's not that I can't handle situations at all. I can usually handle situations after I process them, but I have never been one of those to jump into something and know exactly how to handle it.
. I usually can run pretty well, except when something gets messed up in my schedule, I need to get a hold of someone for something. I can't see when I need to work, but I want to make plans; when I misplace my phone or other items, I don't handle that kind of stuff well.
I have always tried to be resilient, and I have tried to take things as they come and go along with everything. I have not been able to do that yet.
I think I am slowly starting to get better and improve and handle all that life throws at me. However, I still have a lot of work to do, and it always seems like it is not possible to build resilience. Still, I know it should come over time, with work, confidence, strength, emotional growth and intelligence, and the willingness to improve and be better.
I used to think resilience just came and people were just born with it and that some people are naturally resilient. In contrast, some people are incapable of being resilient; I recently realized that that is not the case. However, I know that some people, me included, have to work a lot harder at developing resilience.
Resilience comes easier to some than others; people make it seem like taking things as it comes easy to do and learn.
It takes a heck of a lot of work, strength, discipline, tears, and pain.
I am confident that I will eventually learn to take everything as it comes and runs with it and adapt to every situation one day. But it takes daily work, daily stress, daily strength, and much more. I used to feel bad and guilty for not being able to process situations and others or handle problems quickly without needing to think about it first.
Once you learn resilience and learn how to take things as they come and solve situations quickly, it could help bring down a lot of stress and anxiety and something we deal with daily.
I now realize that it is nothing to feel wrong about, but I might have to work harder to develop emotional intelligence, strength, growth, and resilience. If you keep working on it, stability will come a lot sooner rather than later!
You got this!